Even though all of us cry, we are raised in a society that regarded crying as a sign of weakness. Boys don’t cry as it’s not good for their personality and girls are spoilt if they cry often.
Because of the fear, we hide the way we feel. We think that we’ll become vulnerable, get hurt if we open up, and others will take advantage of us if we cry openly.
But surprisingly, we all need a good cry from time to time, and it is not something to hide.
Because of the sign of emotional intelligence, or the ability of a person to aware of their feelings and openly express them, it is critical to be able to face your emotions.
Anyhow, you need to display your emotions, if not negativity will build up and cause more problems and stress. By ignoring your feelings, you can come to a point of no escape.
You need an emotional release as you keep pretending everything is fine all the time. By crying you can release all the buildup tension and stress, to address your problems, and to move on.
Emotional distress can be healed with crying.
The Professor of Clinical Psychology at Bournemouth University and author of Emotional Processing, Roger Baker: Healing Through Feeling:
“Crying does help us process faster than if we don’t cry at all, but it’s not the only thing — it’s part of a package of expressing it. If your father died, your natural reaction would be to cry. You wouldn’t be able to get it out of your mind, you’d be discussing it a great deal, and you couldn’t work or do anything initially.
But gradually, the turmoil would subside. You’d reach a point where you could look at photos, and although you’d remember him, there would be no powerful emotional reaction.
At that point, you could say it has been emotionally processed. But it’s not the passing of time that does that — it’s all the things you’ve done in between to help you to process it.”
Crying helps you to self-sooth; you’ll feel renewed after a good cry out.
Dr. Judith Orloff maintains:
“Crying makes us feel better, even when a problem persists. In addition to physical detoxification, emotional tears heal the heart. You don’t want to hold tears back.
Try to let go of outmoded, untrue, conceptions about crying. It is good to cry. It is healthy to cry. This helps to emotionally clear sadness and stress. Crying is also essential to resolve grief when waves of tears periodically come over us after we experience a loss.
Tears help us process the loss so we can keep living with open hearts. Otherwise, we are set up for depression if we suppress these potent feelings.
When a friend apologized for curling up in the fetal position on my floor, weeping, depressed over a failing romance, I told her, “Your tears blessed my floor. There is nothing to apologize for.”