There are many couple photos we see daily on our Newsfeed. They are with various poses and filters. Those couples need to bring up a continuous testament of their love.
Many people have cringe at the onslaught of relationship selfies or ‘relfies.’ As relfies look picture perfect, the couples who don’t take many relfies, think that there is something wrong with their relationship.
So, the people who see those pictures want to have that perfect life.
But, actually, we don’t know whether they are really happy. Here are some points from relationship experts.
We only see the couple from their Facebook posts and we actually don’t what happens behind the scenes. But the relationship experts know whether they are happy or not.
Couples who spend their time on clicking selfies are actually not happy and they are one of the saddest couples according to relationship expert and a sexologist, Dr. Nikki Goldstein.
But they look picture perfect as they only want to get more likes and comments.
Goldstein said that, their only way to fortify their relationship is by seeking validation from others as they are so unsure about their relationship. They could run away from the struggles of their relationship by getting the required validation. But, they are actually not as happy as they seem.
Missing out precious moments
Dr. Nikki Goldstein said to Daily Mail that she has the opportunity to look at posts made by couples and also listen to their inside stories. Even if the validation part is little bit shocking it’s not much surprising.
Many people click photos and upload them in order to get validation from their friends and family. According to Dr. Goldstein, the couples who take more relfies are actually harming their already damaged relationship. They miss precious moments as they waste their time clicking some selfies and making posts.
As we all know, selfies are made to capture moments. Relationship experts reveal that these couples are so addicted to selfie. They immediately click their selfies and start working on their phones without even looking at each other. So, they miss the special moments.
So, what you see in not the truth. They are smacked by the reality about their struggling relationship at any moment they look up from their phone.
Dr. Goldstein said that it’s not wrong to post selfies. But, don’t be addicted to it. You’ll be missing out on some real-life events when you get addicted to clicking selfies.
You can keep the post entertaining and fun without trying getting some validation out of it. No one wants to know how both of you are and about your relationship.
You need to understand the truth of your relationship.
The only key is, limiting oneself. A relationship is should be enjoyed by those individual people involved with one another. You need to remember that it is not a performance to be displayed to an audience.
You need to figure out whether you are really happy as the pictures. If not start doing something to work in it.