People raise girls with the “there is no love without pain” mentality. Even though love needs work and compromise, it does not have to be painful. Love is as always kind, patient, and beautiful. When people are in love they deserve to be happy.
It’s time we stopped justifying abuse and passing it off as “the things we endure for love.” If everyone stopped acting like the first step to true love is unbearable suffering, the number of women who would be liberated from emotional slavery will be increased.
No excuse can be given for abuse and no justification for emotional torture, manipulation and blackmail. So, women have the right to step out of the chains and owned their lives. It is said that perfect men do not exist, which may be true. But there are some people who are decent men and don’t toy with women’s heart.
That man will never make her feel unworthy of his love. The person who truly loves would never body-shame her or act like she’s good-for-nothing. He would love every inch of her and all her insecurities and show her how important she is.
A truly loving man would commit fully to the relationship and never treat her as an option. She deserves to be loved in every minute of the day. He wants her to be faithful, and he’ll be faithful too. She will trust him, as he’s been honest from the start and will never take advantage of her trust.
You need to wait until you find what you truly deserve
A real man will protect his woman from anything that could hurt her physically or mentally, including herself. He’s always with him whenever she needs you. She doesn’t need to beg him for support as he’s always there. He’ll show her how truly capable and perfect she is when she is in doubt and begins to sabotage herself. He will always defend her and corrects her when she’s wrong.
He knows that her body belongs to her alone and she’s doing you an honor if she chooses to share it with you. He’d never force her or ill-treat her. He never touches her in a way she’s not comfortable with and respects his woman.
He would never intentionally make his woman cry. He’d do anything to keep her happy, pleasantly surprise her and give her a million reasons to be thankful for their love.
He will encourage her to be confident, glowing and excelling. He loves her for what she is and doesn’t try to change her.
He doesn’t want to change her appearance and he accepts her as she is.
He’d support her and hold her up when she begins to doubt herself instead of get threatened or tries to discourage her.
He will be your go-to person, not a man who scares you
He is the biggest support she has and aches to be the person she relies on the most. Love is unconditional and solid, resilient and unwavering and should not be held by glue and duct tape.
Both partners would have to put the same amount of effort to make things work for a relationship to be truly happy and successful. If he a real man to you, you should be a real woman to him too. You also need to support and love him, commit to him and encourage him.
You’d have to love yourself first before you can truly let someone love you. Identify your value and take pride in which you are.
When you treat yourself like the precious jewel you are, no one would ever dare to treat you like trash.