Ever wonder why you seem to attract negative people to you?
Well actually behind this fact is science. Have you thought of this earlier? Here the fact is, positive and negative people are often drawn to each other even when they seem so vastly different and it’s rooted in our nature.
A battery has two ends — which is cathode and anode. The cathode is the positive terminal and anode is the negative terminal. If these two ends are connected together the electricity is produced. Now, this is what happens when a positive and a negative person meets. There is an energy which is being between the two people. We crave energy. Energy is a flow of electrons and energy is a flow of emotions, if you’ve ever wondered why opposites attract – there’s part of your answer.
A Positive force will magnetically draw a negative charge to it.
Knowing that you are dealing with negative people, you must first recognize that we are in fact attracted to the energy or charge that we feel. The key is to understand if the flow energy and if you need to “detach” from that negative force.
What are you getting from the relationship? What is it you want from the relationship and is it realistic? Will you ever get it? Does this relationship serve you? Is your life better with this person in it?
With relationships, we have many choices. We are not allowed to choose family members, but we are allowed to choose friends. Does this person lift you up? Are they happy about your success? Do they cheer for you? Do they pray for you? Do they care enough to push you or ask uncomfortable questions when you’re off track?
A true friend is someone who will care so much for you. A true friend is also someone that you can have comfortable conversations with. They will always lead you to the right path. A true friend should feel like the President of your Fan Club! A true friend wants what’s in your best interest… Those are the people you need in your life. Those are the important relationships — and you have a choice.
Those friends who are negative, impossible please, terribly unhappy with themselves and hell-bent on confrontation are not healthy people to spend time with. There is a cost to be paid and guess who pays the price? Ask yourself how often this person repays or redeposit the withdrawals they make? We have a finite amount of love, energy, compassion and most importantly time. Be mindful of how and with whom you spend those things.
Everyone has a way in which they enrich our lives. I hope these following suggestions will be very helpful.
HOW TO BEST MANAGE NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND RELATIONSHIPS:
- Consider carefully how much of yourself you give to those who only withdraw.
- Give negative individuals less power over your emotions, time and happiness.
- You are not responsible for another person’s happiness, value or good mood.
- Don’t take the hurtful actions as a personal reflection.
- Remember…it is impossible to win an argument with someone who is “never wrong” or blindly self-focused.
- Difficult, needy, angry, overly sensitive people are that way —not because of something you’ve done or not done—- but often because of early childhood experiences.
- Have empathy and compassion but not at the risk of sacrificing yourself.
- Don’t take it personally. It’s really not about you. And sometimes there’s nothing you can fix….but we can choose our friends.
HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE.
When a person hates us and as a solution, if you are also thinking to hurt them back, then do it, just pray for them because we can’t change them by doing the same.
WHEN DEALING WITH UNHAPPY FAMILY MEMBERS, KNOW YOUR PART, BUT SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
Be supportive without taking responsibility for the self-worth of another. Create a healthier relationship with them. And if you want this person in your life or if you really don’t have a choice via marriage or bloodline then make a decision to do your best without sacrificing your soul.
AND LASTLY, I BELIEVE THAT NO RELATIONSHIP IS 50/50.
Every relationship has a humble hero. It’s okay to be that person from time to time who does more and takes pride in their role. Be the person who’s willing to make the other person feel like the center of the universe. Instead of keeping score or building resentment, just hold that pride inside of you.
Know without having to broadcast it or write your award acceptance speech that this is ***your gift*** this is what draws other people to you. Stop feeling sorry for yourself or wondering when someone else is going to do the same for you. Respond in love or make a decision to make a change.
source used – powerofpositivity.com