Love vs. Lust

Most of them think that Lust and Love goes together. While it’s totally wrong. Lust vs. love, this is very easy to confuse people, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Too tend to get Both emotions  that starts to make you feel a kind of bliss that you’ve never experienced before — which is wonderful and joyous and something to celebrate, you start to feel butterflies in your tummy and you want to explore more — but before experiencing it I want all of you to make sure what is love? And what is Lust?


When you’re in love

When you are totally in love you forget so many stuffs because you know your man loves you more than you do. You feel secured. Now you might forget to wear pants. Are you wearing a shirt? Check. Shoes? Check. Pants? Oops! On those exciting Friday nights where you end up pacing the aisles of Costco to stock up on frozen pizzas and Lucky Charms cereal, comfort = love. You just want to feel comfortable and want to live a peaceful life with lots of happiness.

 When you’re in Lust

Here you consider too much of your dressing style. Shape, size, color etc. You start to dress to the NINES and maybe even the tens. Actually, there’s no harm in looking good for your significant partner – who loves to see you beautiful in any way, this must be especially done when you’re first meeting each other. But we all know dressing like you’re going to a Fashion Week each time you step out for a date. This is 100% effort and also costs you much.


When you’re in Love

You start to point out their mistakes, unnecessary mistakes sometimes though. That’s not bad at all because you do it as you love them immensely. There are no words to express true love, it a feeling like you’ve never felt before. You really want a better person, a person who is way better than you. Therefore to pin point mistakes are really good. It’s a criticism but in a good way. It’s known as constructive criticism. This helps each other to make their mistakes and make their relationship stronger. As we all know we are not perfect, but we must try to be perfect to each other.

When you’re in Lust

You start to question their past. You always try to drag all their past mistakes and you want to shout at them the whole day. You try to look past their foolishness. Here the Things are so hot and heavy. It’s a very big mistake because whenever you try to point out their mistakes all the time and when they are trying to make their mistakes and move forward. The results are going to cost you, remember it very well. Everyone wants to change themselves but it takes time. Both of you must have patients for each other, give them time, start to appreciate them when they are trying to mend their ways. This is the best path to make your bond stronger and stronger. It’s easy to look past minor “annoyances” (that laugh, that money problem, that MOTHER) that may turn into larger issues down the road and before that give space and time. Things will go better, trust me.


When you’re in Love

When you are in so much love and you also respect each other’s opinion and listen what they have to say and also you keep it real between both of you. You don’t agree with everything they’re saying. You try to argue with them and you want to say opinion is right, but with some compromises. You always have to clearly state what you like and what you don’t. Having different views and opinions from your significant partner doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not perfect from him/her; it just means that you have a different perspective. And that’s okay. Healthy debate is good and normal and helpful to see things in different manner.

When you’re in Lust

You only say what your partner wants to hear. This is really useless. You won’t get closer. You won’t know what he ‘she wants or likes.  Your constant aim is to please your partner. You agree with whatever they have to say. Your answer will be always a yes. That’s not ideal as a real lovers. When they ask you a question, you’re more to reply with a “safer” answer – where you want to please them and make them happy, but you at not satisfied with it at all. According to my opinion, you must fully express how you feel and what do you want to change in it. This is a successful way.


When you’re in Love

You always try to please them in one way or another. You matter what they like. They’re more like a Greek God/Goddess statue missing its arm. This is perfectly imperfect, just like you! Pretending to be anything other than that is exhausting and a LIE.

When you’re in Lust

The person you’re with is a Greek God/Goddess. Or rather, try this analogy: a perfectly-shaped cookie with no dents or chipped corners. You always want everything to be 100% you will never want to see each other’s imperfections. Though there are many, you will always want to see a perfect shaped cookies. But hate to break it to you: even perfect-looking cookies have burnt, but these are not visible at the beginning. When the time flies away you get to know it gradually.


When you’re in Love

When you immensely love your partner. You really know all the small details about your partner and take care of them. Such as, their favorite color is blue because when they were little, because it was their parent’s favorite color to dress them up in. Their favorite food is mac and cheese because it’s the comfort food their Grandma always made them when they went to visit their place. These small things are the main details anyone should know. This is related to past and present. Even likes and dislikes can update guys! As a better partner we should understand them day by day. Try to be close, find what they want don’t wait until they ask for it. Try to understand him. Only words are not needed. You can understand through your love. It is another language which is communicated without any words. Understand it first and the rest will be better.

When you’re in lust

Now you don’t really know them. You only know what they have said you and you really don’t want to know further about it. Is this real love? Think about it. Sure, you know their favorite color is blue and their favorite food is macaroni and cheese. But that’s only the surface level you must dug down deep as a girl. Believe me that tunnel is VERY LONG. There is never an end you have to ask more and more that’s the best way to know about them. Learn about their likes and dislikes and ask them why you like it and stuff. Study them more each and every day there is something new to learn about them.


When you’re in Love

Now you gradually start talking to them deeply. You’ll talk to them about, well, basically everything. You don’t care how much naughty it is, how much weird or embarrassing it is. You just spit it out. Your man will listen to you no matter what it is and that’s true love. They will love you and listen to you without any judgment.

When you’re in Lust

You don’t feel comfortable at all. You won’t talk with them about your problems. You will keep them to yourself. This just increases pressure. Talking about your problem can help ease stress and tension. But you prefer to talk about them with someone you trust. The best person you trust is your better half. Isn’t it? And let’s face it, you’re just not at that ride-or-die stage yet

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