Here are 40 things every woman “should have” by age 40:

  1. Have an emotionally-powerful kiss which will continually remind you of the word “passion.”
  2. Have a lover who knows how, when and where to “touch” you in a way that left you in awe and anticipation.
  3. Have an understanding of your family’s medical history that enables you to take appropriate steps to preserve your well-being.
  4. Without losing self-control learn how to confront a friend or someone else close to you.
  5. Have a young child that has looked to you for support, compassion, and guidance, but not your own.
  6. Have a place you can call “your own” place where you can be comfortably relaxed.
  7. Have the knowledge to cook at least one complicated dish.
  8. Have a best friend that makes you happy.
  9. Have a friend who is nonjudgmental.
  10. Get something more valuable that is more expensive.
  11. Have a vision of yourself actually scared you.
  12. Have a past experience so enamoring that you’ll gladly retell it in your late years.
  13. You should realize that old age is inevitable, and you must have a way of funding it.
  14. Have an emotional scar which is deeply entrenched via pain and has strengthened your character.
  15. Have an outfit so lovely that you can wear it in front of anyone, at any time.
  16. A routine activity that you do lonely to yourself.
  17. Realize that your parents did the best they could with what they had.
  18. Have memories that help you appreciate the ones that make you gleeful.
  19. Have personal record of your deepest thoughts and feelings.
  20. Have a friend you can call at any time to help you out of a jam.
  21. Have something that brings about a heavy sense of sentimentality such as a piece of jewelry, a tattoo, a gift or anything.
  22. Have the knowledge what you will and will not find personally acceptable in any relationship.
  23. Have a well-kept secret that immediately brings about a smile.
  24. Have an older woman in your life that possesses characteristics you wish to emulate.
  25. Have a sense of spirituality that both nourishes and teaches.
  26. Have a song or musical piece that brings that defines you.
  27. And which makes you want to sing at the top of your lungs.
  28. Have “to-do” list that may or may not be completely checked off.
  29. Have a higher purpose that enables you to roll out of bed even on the toughest of days.
  30. Just know who you are as a woman.
  31. Accomplished something that nobody can ever take away from you in any situation.
  32. Have a photo album, big or small, of forever cherished memories.
  33. Lost someone so deeply loved that it will forever leave a void in your soul and a hole in your heart.
  34. Having the ability to say “NO” without any further explanation.
  35. Accepting the person you see in the mirror, with all imperfections as they’ve likely been earned over time.
  36. Have any hobby that you can spend a lot of time on it.
  37. Have a gray hair or two, or a part of your body that you’ll probably never perfect.
  38. Had a romantic partner that brought out your “wild side.”
  39. Have bit of money set aside, or enough resources in case of an emergency.
  40. Know that 40 years means “old.” But remember that there’s a lot of living to be done, young lady.